- Women of Jammu and Kashmir state want to do a lot but will not upset the apple cart of life. Their natural strength is to live in extreme climates, they are hard working, beautiful, and hospitable but lack courage to take a step forward. They are scared to face reality as they feel safer in groups. Material possessions cannot fulfill the void that has been created with them being educated and doing nothing purposeful with their lives.
- A woman’s image as to how she portrays herself at office will make a difference. A professional attitude will keep many incidences at bay. Women who don’t know how to keep boundaries do get into trouble as signals can be misinterpreted. A woman can command her own respect and dignity by her words, actions and clothes.
By Ajmer Alam Wani
JAMMU: Sangeeta Sindhi, a native of Jammu has progressed from a shy, quiet yet confident girl in the 80s to a Pioneer Successful Entrepreneur in Image Consultancy in India (Impact Image Consultants), Author, Public speaker and a role model for men and women across the entire world. She chose to live her dreams. She has upgraded her life from a small town girl to an international level with Executive MBA from Bradford University, UK. She is married to a business man and lives with her 10 year old son in Gurgaon. Apart from this, her passion to climb all continents of the world, she has scaled Mount Kilimanjaro 19,341 feet in Africa, Mount Elbrus 18,510 feet in Europe and Mount Aconcagoa 20,880 feet in South America. She is getting ready to climb Antarctica in January 2014 and hopes to cover Mount Everest in 2015.
Having the vision to impart knowledge, spread positivity and empower women to become confident to soar like an eagle, Sangeeta who claimed to have 30 years of international experience in varied roles in hotels, international airlines, corporate and working with 90 nationalities, has opined that the women of Jammu and Kashmir are Family Oriented, conservative but hypocrites, dependent and live in a vacuum. For them, they are not brave enough to take a stand alone.
Sangeeta Sindhi further added that the women of Jammu and Kashmir state want to do a lot but will not upset the apple cart of life. However she appreciated the women of Jammu and Kashmir State for their natural strength to live in extreme climates, hard working, beautiful, and hospitable but lamented that they lack courage to take a step forward. They are scared to face reality as they feel safer in groups. Having studied there in school, her classmates are living a life of complacency and harbour low self esteem. Material possessions cannot fulfill the void that has been created with them being educated and doing nothing purposeful with their lives.
In an interview with JK Monitor, she recalled the year 1981 when she left Jammu and added that whenever she visits back J&K, she find it same in many ways. Only the roads have changed along with infrastructure. Thinking remains predominantly the same.
She suggested that women of J&K should take an active role socially, become independent economically and then their confidence will grow to guide the children better. Regretting that the communication, they are not at par with the rest of metros which is a real let down in J&K. Though women are strong morally, she said they still have to balance their own emotional needs by speaking up. She plans to bring Impact Women Power, an offshoot of her Company Impact Image Consultants to Jammu for giving wings to their dreams.
She suggested that they should meet socio-economically, and raise the status of the state by participating in debates; parliament, public speaking and social causes for other women besides get involved in charity to upgrade other women. It is always better to get a group of women together to discuss ideas than just meet for kitty parties gossiping. Women should be seen to be heard.
Born at home in Gandhi Nagar area of Jammu to a father who has been in the LIC and mother a housewife, Sangeeta is convent educated from Presentation Convent Jammu and Sacred Heart Convent Dalhousie. She was always been active in debates, dramas and always good in public speaking. She used these skills to make her dreams come true in all aspects of life.
She said that her mother has been her biggest supporter morally while her father and his family had always opposed her dreams and instead wanted her to marry young.
She never wanted to marry young where she was burdened with kids at an early age. She has been very independent from an early age and wanted to make headway into becoming economically independent, which she has done in-spite of all hardships.
Recalling her college life, she said “My college life was with all girls who were envious of my confidence and abilities. In Sacred Heart Convent, It was called the passport to marriage and all the girls studied there as a step gap, just to step into matrimony. I always had different plans. I won “Beauty with Brains” in college. In those days, ragging was prevalent from seniors and she was often ragged for looking good.
According to Sangeeta marriage is one long compromise and should be viewed as a growth factor to strengthen the relationship always. “After I married in 2000, I had come back from Dubai after being there for 14 years and it was a major setback as I had no job and had moved backwards. I was frustrated for quite some time. Then I studied Image Consultancy by distance study and consequent courses to and opened my Business in 2005. I had a baby boy at 38 and was overjoyed but felt socially cut off as I was a hands on Mom and did not get any maids to look after him. All those years of nurturing him have paid dividends as my son is an extremely intelligent, warm and social boy. He is full of confidence and joy”.
She advised that women should go through all roles but still keep their own identity apart from their marital status. Her first job was at 16 at a Boutique as a Sales Girl when she was in Delhi and also finished first year of College through correspondence. She loved it and found that earning money was a great high for her. Soon she got into modelling and was featured in many magazines and TV ads. She became MISS INDIA finalist in 1985.
When asked about the exploitation of women at work places, she said that possibilities are always there and mentioned that a woman’s image as to how she portrays herself at office will make a difference. A professional attitude will keep many incidences at bay. Women who don’t know how to keep boundaries do get into trouble as signals can be misinterpreted, she added. A woman can command her own respect and dignity by her words, actions and clothes. She coaches many professional companies to stay safe and professional in the 21st century.
Being a lover of nature and an avid mountaineer, she invites other women to join her for treks in the mountains and expressed her wish that Jammu and Kashmir should name her as an Ambassador for preserving its beauty and keeping it clean. There are many peaks in Jammu and Kashmir to be climbed and she hopes to take women out of their comfort zones to do it. Her first stint with IMPACT WOMEN POWER this year has been in Himachal, Dalhousie and her second trek will be Destination Ladakh in Jammu and Kashmir in august 2014.
While concluding she dedicated a message to J&K women. “You can also do what you wish to do in your life. Do not wait for things to happen. Take initiative”.